Column: Dad is major force in child’s wellbeing
Jewel Pickert is a Hastings resident.
Fathers are special. It’s not just my opinion. Research proves it. Before we get to that, think of what you do or have done with your father.
Maybe you went hunting, fishing, played some type of sport, put something together, or created something new. Whatever it was, you did it together.
Maybe you even talked shop about sports, your job, his job, a shared hobby, or current affairs. Again, you shared a common interest.
All of this togetherness leads to dad’s specialty. While dad may not have been aware of it, research shows how special he is.
You see, his specialty has flown under the radar for many years. Most research tends t — and not always for good reasons.
We’ve watched movies depicting dad as bumbling when it comes to child caregiving. We’ve heard references to mom always knowing what to do. You’d think a father’s contribution would be minimal. But, you’d be wrong.
Remember those activities you shared with dad? Every single one of them has an emotional component. Surprise!
Dads who interact with their children through activities influence their children’s emotional stability in a positive way. Watching TV together doesn’t count, though.
According to the online article “The Science of Dad and the ‘Father Effect’” by Joshua A. Krisch on fatherly.com: “There’s a correlation between a fatherly presence and a lack of aggression consistent across class.”
Also, according to “8 Science-Based Reasons Why Dads Deserve More Credit” by Rebecca Adams on huffingtonpost.com, a good relationship between father and child decreases stress in that child — and not just for the short term.
In fact, according to the Ronald and Nancy Rohner Center for the Study of Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection, rejection by a father has a more profound impact on a child than rejection from a mother. This center also discovered that a father’s love influences a child’s personality development more than a mother’s.
Of course, there can be exceptions, but the research indicates dads are far more important than they realize.
Without individual emotional stability and even emotional intelligence, we become lost. It becomes difficult to fit in or to understand ourselves.
Dad’s specialties: contributing to your emotional stability and to your personality development.
This Father’s Day, why not plan a fun outing for him, for a change. Happy Father’s Day!
As always, I will strive to add a dose of realism, while putting some worth in your while.