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Hope Lutheran and ECFE will offer 'Love and Logic'

It is an approach to raising kids that provides loving support from parents while at the same time expecting kids to be respectful and responsible.

Hope Christian Preschool and Hastings Community Education Early Childhood Family Education (ECFE) Program will hold "Becoming a Love and Logic Parent Curriculum" from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. Mondays, March 18 and 25; and April 1 and 8, at Hope Lutheran Church, 16898 Michael Ave.

The cost is $30 per individual and $40 per couple.

Many today are wondering what to do with their kids and are frustrated because the old techniques just don't seem to get the job done.

Parents want to enjoy their kids, have fun with them and enjoy a less stressful family life. But even if their kids are trouble-free right now, they fear what the coming teenage years will bring.

What is Love and Logic?

Many ideas, offered with the best of intentions, center around making sure that kids are comfortable and feeling good about themselves in order to have a good self-concept. Self-confidence is not developed when kids are robbed of the opportunity to discover that they can indeed solve their own problems with caring adult guidance.

This approach is known as Love and Logic, a philosophy founded by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., and based on the experience of a combined total of more than 75 years working with and raising kids.

Many parents want their kids to be well prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be held accountable for those mistakes. But these parents often fail to hold the kids accountable for poor decisions because they are afraid the kids will see their parents as being mean, according to the program. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others, including themselves, accountable for their children's irresponsibility.

Fay teaches parents that they should "lock in our empathy, love and understanding" prior to telling kids what the consequences of their actions will be. The "Parenting the Love and Logic Way" curriculum teaches parents how to hold their kids accountable in this special way. This Love and Logic method causes the child to see their parent as the "good guy" and the child's poor decision as the "bad guy." When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, "I wonder how much pain I'm going to cause for myself with my next decision?" Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.

Tyler Davis, an independent facilitator of this program, will lead the Hastings classes. Child care will be available each evening at a cost of $3 per child or $6 per family maximum.

Registration (including child care information) and payment should be sent to Tyler Davis, 15704 Bryant Ave. S., Burnsville, MN 55306. More information is available at the church and at the ECFE office, 310 River St.